What Is Your Deepest Fear?

Jan 18, 2013 in Blog

Like A Weight Off My Shoulders
a blog post by Greg Tymon  

That is a great question.  Most who know me already know the answer, SHARKS!  Sharks will mess you up!  However, if we confine the scope of the question to personal achievement, an even more  irrational answer comes to mind.  My deepest fear is success.  I know this sounds odd but if you spent some time inside my head, you would have some perspective, and then nightmares.

I’m not afraid of succeeding anywhere in my life accept in business.  As a fitness professional I’m scared to death that one of my ideas will take off and become wildly successful.  The bigger and better the idea, the more debilitating the fear becomes.  I thought up the idea of constantly varied, high intensity, functional movements years ago but didn’t do anything with it.  I was going to call my new business “Shit Storm of Pain”.  Well played Glassman.  Instead I take on small scale projects which benefit a small amount of people.  Why do I do this?  Because my inner voice, my pathological critic tells me I cannot handle a big venture.  And I listen every time.  Here’s how it plays out:  I get a great Idea and become excited about it.  I develop the idea until it becomes credible with the potential of being applicable on a large scale.  I then begin to feel anxious as doubts creep in on whether I can pull it off.  My anxiety increases as my pathological critic continues its barrage of negativity.  To relieve the anxiety, I abandon the idea and my dis-ease immediately dissipates.  I’ve just reinforced this self limiting behavior.  How feeble of me.  Damn it, I just did it again.

What is your deepest fear?  What does your pathological critic tell you?

Here’s what I plan on doing to effect change and I encourage you to join me.  Come up with positive rebuttals to have at the ready.  Every time your pathological critic rears its head, kick it in the proverbial balls, tell it to shut up and then shout out your positive rebuttal.  As an expert on pathological criticism, I’m the last person you should take advice from on improving self-esteem so I recommend the book “Self-Esteem” by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning.  Lastly, I came across the following passage while watching a movie and wanted to share it with you:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.  We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?  Your playing small does not serve the world.  There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.  We are all meant to shine, as children do.  It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.  As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”  by Marianne Williamson